Ever since Joyce passed away, and her funeral, I have tried to visit her at least once a week at the Cemetery in St.Paul. And I've made every week but one that I can remember.
When I visit her I talk to her about how I'm doing, what has happened since the last time I was there. It is good therapy for me and gives me often a sense of peace. I eventually brought a lawn chair and it's normally just me sitting there, talking to her, for between 15 minutes to sometimes up to an hour.
And it's been mostly on Sunday afternoons. Late afternoon really; between 5-6:30pm. (I have often had the American Top 40 on KOWZ when I go there, which airs every Sunday Afternoon 2-6pm)
However, once we hit Daylight Savings Time, that became too late as I didn't want to go there when it was dark.
And now within the last 5 days, the temperatures have gone down enough, including snow yesterday 11/29/25 that going there, being outside, isn't as desirable to do.
So drawing inspiration/suggestion from my Aunt, I am going to start writing Joyce letters as an alternative. I'm not sure if it will be every week this Winter, per ideally I would have gone to the cemetery today, but I went to see Zootopia in Eagan, and picked up some homemade Popusas down in Rosemount from someone on Facebook. And so the timing just didn't work today. But I may manage to go on Wednesday as I have PTO that day and am going to the Minnesota History Center to celebrate Joyce's 10 Year Anniversary at MNHS (December 1, 2015 was her Orientation at the Library).
But in the mean time, I will try and write these letters. And mind you in order to do something similar if not the same things, I need to write like I talk to her, with a lot of INSIDE BASEBALL stuff that many people reading this, just won't fully understand. Like many couples, Joyce and I had our conversations about things only we knew, etc. People, names, etc.
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